kursus kahwin

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Alhamdullillah, at least one part is settled :) (OMG, there are tons of other things to do kot!!! and i don't even have any clue or idea where to have the wedding yet..and its 3 months away...clap!clap!clap! sha...good job!)

anywho, I am so glad that we went to to this place for our kursus kahwin. In Malaysia, one of the requirements for a Muslim to get married is that we have to attend a 2 days pre-marriage course. The reason, according to the Islamic Religious Department is that there are way too many divorces happening that couples are in need of help before they enter marriage life..but, the older generations maintains that, they never had to attend any sort of courses and they are doing FINE...even better than those who had attended the course..

For me, i was of the view that, Islam does not impose things to be difficult when one is prepared to get married and y does the religious department wants to impose some ruling to make a hurdle for couples to get married..and whether such courses will ever make a change or whether there is much need to pay RM 80, attend 2 day course, in the name of 'merely abiding one of the requirements of being married'.

But after 'graduating' from my 2 day-marriage course, i now say, Alhamdulillah i had attended it! Alhamdulillah Allah had pre ordained that we were to attend the course at that place.. mind you the name of the place is the same same name as my Mr. A...Mahligai Firdaus..but that was NOT the reason, y we decided to go there...it was coz it was quite near to my hse.. ;p

For me, the poeple we meet, the situation or circumstances that we are in, all has a reason for it to happen.

And from the details and info that they had conveyed to us, it did in a way...showed/reflected what was to be expected during marriage and it was good because both of us, who are on the way to go thru that road, heard the same thing, digested the same info, listened to same experiences that was shared and somewhat went thru the same process.

In one day, 77 divorces are being applied in our shariah courts/islamic departments. 0-3 years of marriage is the toughest and hardest and there are instances where less than a year or less than 2 years of being marriage, couples are seeking for divorce. THIS IS SCARY information for me.

but as one of the ustazah mentioned, find the BLESSINGS (keberkatan) of Allah in our/your marriage. People tend to forget that everything comes from Him and the only reason for it to happen is Him. (and for everytime, ANYTIME, we need to only ask, we need only to talk to Him, we need to only keep Him near, MasyaAllah, Subhanallah...Astaghfirullah, how can we forget this?)

One other question is, do we often make the decision to get married because we have found the one,
OR
because we have made a decision that we are ready to be married.

one note that had my attention was that, if we have decided to get married because we are ready to have children of our own, what will happen if later you find out that you/your partner are not able to have/provide the 'ingredients' to have children? what happens when you already HAVE children? then, whats next?

food for thought!

cmg back to the question that we need to ask ourselves, if we make a decision to get married because we have found the one and then decide to get married, there are things/issues that comes with it..often we feel that we know the ins-&-outs of a person, therefore we are ready to be married, but nothing compares to when you are already married to one another..

now its just spending 2-3 hours or maybe 6-7 hours together..but being married means spending the whole time together and that is when all the realness, reality, truth, true character and behaviour is shown...it is different! and what if he/she is then not what you expected?

as oppose to, you are ready to be married...and you ask Allah to guide you...let Him guide and show you who is the one who is meant for you..wow! ;)

anywho, as always in Malaysia, information like this always comes to you a lil bit too late in life...hahaha...(mak da terpilih da calon...tp i'm sure, insyaAllah it is with His blessings and guidance :))

another info yg terlambat is...contoh laa, during my 4th year in IIUM when i was doing my law degree, my professional practice lecturer told us..
"you had 4 years of your life spent in Uni..if yu had taken that 4 years and learnt a new language like Arab (or at that time i think he was referring to those who have not improved their english skills), don't you think you could have spoken arabic by now? "

if he had told me this, or if i had heard this somewhere when i was in my 1st year or just starting out...maybe it would have made a much more impact or difference... ;p

another question is, what is your niat (intention) in getting married? why do you want to marry him? why did you choose him? why out of all the men you've met, he is the one? (jeng..jeng..jeng...)..

so sasha...what is your niat? ;)

there was supposed to be more to this actually..but was wrapped up with work..cudn't finish it..n i cant for the life of me remember what i wanted to share summore :(

anywho, one more thing yg important is that i was informed that its really2 important to get ur rubella shot before u get preggers..like in msia we were given the shot when we were in primary school but i didnt get mine cos i skipped school that day...aiyo sasha!!

the effect of rubella virus to us is that we get measles, the german one..but if we have the virus n we get preggers, it effects the baby even worse...

"Infection of the mother by Rubella virus during pregnancy can be serious; if the mother is infected within the first 20 weeks of pregnancy, the child may be born with congenital rubella syndrome (CRS), which entails a range of serious incurable illnesses. Spontaneous abortion occurs in up to 20% of cases.^{[1]" got from wiki :)}




so, im gonna hv to go n get the shot as soon as possible sbb ure not supposed to get preggers 3 months after the shot..but sum says a month after..some says 6 months after..haiyo...

tp then sum frens mentioned MMR pulak...so...pg jumpe doctor je la nnt ;p

ok..thats all for now :)